The Female Pelvic Floor – The Forgotten Zone That Can Transform Your Sex Life

Yoni Meragesh
Jun 4
3 min read

Introduction

Many of us go through life without stopping to ask: what do I truly feel in my body? Am I connected to my pelvis, my womb, my pleasure? Am I really present when I touch or am touched?

For many women, the pelvic area – especially the pelvic floor – remains hidden, dormant, or blocked. Sometimes it's due to childbirth, trauma, strict upbringing, or simply a lack of awareness. But right there, between the muscles, tissues, and energy lies immense feminine power: the place from which life is born, and from which soft, deep, and renewed sexuality can arise.

In this article, we’ll dive into what the female pelvic floor really is, why it's so important, and how reconnecting with it can change everything you thought you knew about sex.

What Is the Female Pelvic Floor?

Anatomy Meets Energy

The pelvic floor is a group of muscles located at the base of the pelvis that supports the reproductive organs, bladder, and digestive system. But from a tantric perspective, the pelvic floor is much more than anatomy. It's an energetic center (root and sacral chakras), a source of intuition, vitality, security, and deep feminine sexuality.

When Energy Gets Stuck

When the pelvic floor is weak, tense, or blocked, it doesn’t just affect the body – it influences sensations during touch, desire, and the ability to experience full-bodied pleasure.

Signs of Disconnection from the Pelvic Floor

Physical and Emotional Indicators

Difficulty feeling pleasure from penetration
Trouble reaching orgasm or dependence on external stimulation (like a vibrator)
Pain in the pelvic area or during sex
A sense of “lifelessness” in sexuality
Post-birth urinary leakage or weakness
Feeling disconnected from the womb or from intuitive inner listening

Why Does This Happen?

Cultural and Emotional Conditioning

Our culture glorifies performance, penetration, speed, and functionality. The female body, with its soft and cyclical rhythm, is often expected to fit into masculine patterns. Porn, public discourse, and even the sex education we received as teenagers rarely mention the pelvic floor.

Trauma and Medical Interventions

Many women have experienced births, surgeries, or unpleasant situations that caused emotional disconnection from this area.

So How Do We Reconnect?

Body Awareness and Inner Listening

Practice:

Close your eyes, place a hand on your pelvis, and just listen. Don’t try to change anything. Just be there. What do you feel? Any sensations? Blockages? Numbness? All responses are valid.

Breathing into the Pelvis

How to Do It:

Lie on your back, hands on your lower belly, and breathe into the area. With each inhale – expansion, with each exhale – release. Breathing brings life back to dormant zones.

Gentle Contraction and Release

Exercise:

Gently squeeze (as if stopping urination), hold for 3 seconds, then release. Not from force – from curiosity. How much control do you have over that muscle? Can you even feel it?

Conscious Self-Touch

Tip:

Not necessarily sexual – but touch with the intention of bringing awareness. Massage the lower abdomen, inner thighs, or outer pelvis.

Professional and Structured Guidance

Solution:

If you’re ready to go deeper – we recommend guided learning that honors your pace and teaches you how to progress step by step.

Want to Learn How to Do This at Home, at Your Own Pace?

In the comprehensive online course Orgasmic Pelvis, you’ll receive:

Video lessons with clear explanations and practices
Introduction to your orgasmic pelvic floor
Breathing, movement, awareness, and self-touch techniques
Tools for soft, internal, and deep pleasure
Connection to your womb, heart, and sexual expression

👉 Click here to join the Orgasmic Pelvis course

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